With all the wedding movies you’ve seen, the books you’ve read and the months you’re about to spend planning the darn thing, you’d think you already know what to expect on the big day (and the fraught ones leading up to it). Think again! We’ve here to tell you the dirty little secrets no one else will share:
You Might Have the Biggest Fights of Your Life
Once he slips the ring on your finger, it’s one big love fest, right? Wrong! All of a sudden, every decision matters more, every argument feels biggerand your families will add fuel to the fire. Fighting during this time is normaljust know that once the wedding is over, things will get back to normal.
RSVPS will Both Surprise and Disappoint You
Your very best friend might be too pregnant to make the wedding but 20 of your grandmother’s friends are ready and willing to come! Be prepared for anyone, and we do mean anyone, on your guest list to say yes or no.
Everyone will Ask you for Things
Just in case you thought your wedding day was all about you, so many of your guests will help you realize otherwise. Your third-cousin will need to order a gluten-free vegan meal; your fiance’s best friend’s parents will want sight-seeing recommendations for their extended stay after the wedding. Do what you can, but don’t feel bad telling people no’ or re-directing them to your wedding planner or a designated friend or family member.
If Someone Else is Paying, Someone Else is Saying
Getting financial help with wedding expenditures can be the greatest giftbut know that it almost always comes with strings, especially when it’s your parents helping you out. If you need to have things go entirely according to your plans, you may be better off politely turning down the assistance.
Wardrobe Malfunctions Will Happen
The snaps holding up your bustle may snap in the middle of your first dance, you may trip on your veilyour heel may break. Be prepare: bring an extra set of shoes, some wardrobe tape, even a needle and thread with you. It’s the Murphy’s law of weddingsthe better you plan for disaster, the less likely it is that things will go wrong.
You Won’t Eat a Thing
You know that menu you spent months agonizing over? You won’t taste a bite of it (or if you do, you likely won’t remember.) And that’s ok; it’ll be that way because you’re having such an incredible time. But maybe remember this when you’re stressing over which sushi rolls to order?
You will be So Sad the Next Day (or even that night)
We’ve all heard of the baby blues, but the post-wedding let down is just as real. You’ve spent all these months planning this one day and now it’s done! Lean on your hubby and focus on the honeymoon and the amazing life ahead of you, the sadness will pass in no time!